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Kindness is essential for a peaceful, happy and loving home. Kindness includes:
Within such a context, people are more likely to be happy and confident; they are more likely to be able thrive and excel; and any instances of strife or disagreement can be followed with genuine discussion and/or apologies. Performances and relationships outside the home are also more likely to improve.
Kindness begins with our behaviour and especially self-care. This includes taking time to treat ourselves with respect and compassion. For instance:
Kindness also means thinking about how we talk to ourselves. As an example, if a colleague gets a promotion and you did not, it would be easy to self-criticise and tell ourselves: “you should have done better”, or “you messed that up”.
By taking a more compassionate and kinder stance however, you might instead give yourself some encouragement: “your time will come”, or “you are feeling annoyed / angry, and need to do some self-care to improve how you are feeling". Kindness and self-compassion are especially important at difficult times, but ideally, kindness and self-care or compassion becomes a way of life -a daily way of life!
Self- or other criticism can be the opposite of compassion and kindness, This occurs when we accidentally allow an inner critical voice freedom to judge, undermine, condemn or even sabotage our efforts and activities. When this happens, moods often drop, stress or anxiety increases, and a lot of energy gets wasted. Typically however, this happens because people simply had not realised the negative consequences, or that there are better and more effective ways to manage negative, angry, anxious or worry thoughts.
Daily steps towards kindness and self-care, and a new you, can include any of the following:
Self-care and kindness can also include accessing CBT support, or attending one of our informal community Stress Busters courses (see our sister site at TheICanCentre.com). Additionally, there is no assumption / need for anything to be "wrong" to access these supports. Instead, it is quite fine to attend these even for personal development, information and/or prevention.
What is behind this? What are we telling ourselves?
What if we showed ourselves the same kindness or respect that we show others? How would your day / life change?
Feeling too anxious or tired to selfcare? Your battery a bit low?
The more little acts of kindness behaviours you do, the higher up your battery goes! Try it for yourself?